I hope some (or all) of the following points are helpful:
Remember:
- Be a role model
- Act more and talk less
- Love the kids when they least deserve it because that's when they need it the most
- Appreciate and acknowledge effort
- Kids love being useful so put them to work
- Be firm but friendly
- Ask kids for their ideas
- Make time to play
- Set the stage for success
- Actively listen to them
- Mistakes are OK--it's how we learn
- Connection then correction
- Encourage, encourage. Not praise, praise.
- Explain "when...then..." For instance, "when you finish cleaning your room, then we can go to the park."
- Set limits and don't back down under pressure
- Train kids so they can be involved. Teach them responsibility
- Use a timer (like setting your cell phone alarm to go off when it's time to leave the park)
- Use reverse psychology
- Be more playful--make a joke to diffuse the tension
- Respect each other
- Let kids make choices
- Explain "either...or..." For instance, "either you wear the blue sweater or the green one. Your choice."
- Discipline, not punishment
- Be more specific so they can replicate the action in the future. For instance, "I noticed that..."
- Focus on the process, not the final product
- See things from their point of view and recognize their feelings
- Smiles, hugs, and kisses go a long way
- Stand back and don't rush in to rescue them
- Don't hold a grudge
- Simplify the kids environment
- Set realistic expectations
- Plan ahead so things can go smoothly
- Allow kids to experience the natural consequences of their actions
- Redirect attention
- Allow time for transitions
- Anticipate and prepare for difficult situations
- Stick to the routine
- Do not blow your stack when kids try to engage you in a battle--lead by example
- Have the courage to be imperfect
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